Being a Bridesmaid

A couple weeks ago, I had the privilege of being a bridesmaid in my dad's wedding. This was my first experience at being a bridesmaid, and it was quite a lot of fun. However, being a bridesmaid is still quite a bit of work. The role of a bridesmaid is often more than just showing up at the wedding and standing and looking pretty, though that's the part people see the most, but it's also doing everything you possibly can to help the bride have the best day of her life.

Maybe you've been a bridesmaid before, maybe this is your first time. Either way, a (hopefully) fun experience awaits you! As a bridesmaid, you will have responsibilities, but trust me, they aren't too bad, and actually quite fun!

Although it is commonly the job of the maid-of-honor, the bridesmaids still play a large role in planning and hosting the bridal shower. At the bridal shower for my stepmother, we held a tea party, for she really enjoys tea. In planning a bridal shower, you really want to do something that would please your bride- not just guests. Party favors can be so much fun to do, something that ties in well to the theme of your party. Many times, favors will be chocolate, which is a good go-to for when you can't come up with any other ideas. For our tea party, we searched second-hand shops for tea cups, and filled them with tea bags, providing simple and elegant favors to guests. Games at bridal showers can be hard to come up with, but are great fun once you have a few! I saw many, many fun ideas when searching for games and activities, but choose ones that better match the theme and your bride for the best structure of the day. Some of our activities included a wedding dress designing game (putting guests into teams and having one person be a model for a toilet paper-designed gown), and a worksheet. There are many printable sheets you can find online, or ones you can easily create your own of, as an activity guests can do. Many worksheets include bride and groom questionnaires of their past (ex. first jobs, birth place, college, etc), making it a fun time for your guests to really see how well they know the bride and groom. Do note: prizes are great motivation in any activity.

The wedding day itself brings so much joy...and sometimes stress. For some wedding parties, it's their first time seeing everyone in their wedding attire. Depending on how the bridal party has done their shopping, it's the moment of finally seeing how the colors balance each other. Some wedding parties will have the same color and dress for each bridesmaid, some will just do color, and some will do neither. Whatever you wear, think logically about it for the day. For example, if you are on the beach, you may not want to wear heels or wear a very long dress due to wind, sand, and tides. If you are standing for a long period of time and not used to 3.5" heels, you might be in pain by the end of the wedding, something I learned the hard way. Once again, attire really depends on the theme and colors chosen by the bride and groom or what they really dream of for their dream day.

Weddings are such a wonderful event, and it's easy to get carried away in all the excitement, or do the opposite and drown in the stress. The best way to have a good wedding day is to think of the bride and groom. You're doing this for them! Don't get too caught up in the spotlight, this day isn't about you, you'll have your day. Focus on the joy of the happy couple! And don't forget to have a fun day, they chose you for their wedding party for a reason!